A Timely E-Mail Reminder
Today, words from Frederick Buechner in my e-mail were as a gift I now share with you — because the holidays can be a trial and well as wonderful. (The Holidays: Holes and Choices)
His words reminded me that unclenching my fist and giving over what I can’t control is still up to me.
Let Go and Let God hardly makes sense in a season when buying and acquiring; having and doing are ideas galvanizing so many of my choices.
So, I was glad then to receive this timely reminder via e-mail: LET GO~ Frederick Buechner (My paragraphing and emphases)
They are apt to begin their meetings with a prayer written by my old seminary professor Reinhold Niebuhr: “God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.”
They are apt to end with the Lord’s Prayer: “thy will be done . . . give us this day our daily bread . . . forgive us as we forgive . . . deliver us.”
“To lend each other a hand when we’re falling,” Brendan said. “Perhaps that’s the only work that matters in the end.”
As they live their lives, they try to follow a kind of spiritual rule, which consists basically not only of uncovering their own deep secrets but of making peace with the people they have hurt and been hurt by.
Through prayer and meditation, through seeking help from each other and from helpful books, they try to draw near any way they can to God or to whatever they call what they have instead of God.
They sometimes make serious slips. They sometimes make miraculous gains.
They laugh a lot. Once in a while they cry.
When the meeting is over, some of them embrace. Sometimes one of them will take special responsibility for another, agreeing to be available at any hour of day or night if the need should arise.
They also have slogans, which you can either dismiss as hopelessly simplistic or cling on to like driftwood in a stormy sea. One of them is “Let go and let God“—which is so easy to say and for people like me so far from easy to follow.
Let go of the dark, which you wrap yourself in like a straitjacket, and let in the light.
Stop trying to protect, to rescue, to judge, to manage the lives around you—your children’s lives, the lives of your husband, your wife, your friends—because that is just what you are powerless to do.
Remember that the lives of other people are not your business.
They are their business.
They are God’s business because they all have God whether they use the word God or not.
Even your own life is not your business. It also is God’s business.
Leave it to God. It is an astonishing thought. It can become a life-transforming thought.
I can’t add anything other than my thanks for your reading what I hope was like a cup of cold water in these thirsty, dry times, dear reader.
Here’s hoping Frederick Buechner’s words are a timely reminder to us both: we can let go, and let the God have all our tears.
Love in Christ,
Sober and Grateful
A Reminder Just outside My Window