The question drives me nuts when I hear it. Especially if, I am already in an angry tailspin when I hear it.
What Step are you working?
Will Rogers said people who fly off the handle rarely make a good landing: a wry reminder losing my temper is a dodgy and dangerous.
When I rev up for such a take-off, and a sponsor or program friend asks me that question, it’s like that slap in the Skin Bracer ad from the early 1970’s.“Thanks I needed that.”
I didn’t want it, but I am so busted. Strong emotions often mean I’ve stopped working my steps – or I’ve skipped over some; almost certainly the one which suggests I turn my will and my life over to the care of God, as I understand Him.
I may not be fixing to drink, but I just may be fretting over people, places or things that are not as I wish them to be. Emotions bubble up – How am I handling them, is a good question. If I am working my steps, I can answer that question!
Anger is one letter short of danger. ~Author Unknown
It’s no coincidence then that an AlAnon friend sent me this acrostic:
Whether it’s to stop the drinking we can’t control, or the raging because we can’t control another person’s choices, trusting God with our will and life is simple and hard. I haven’t mastered the Third Step – this side of heaven I wind up in really dumb wrestling matches to have my own way. The mercy is God allows U-turns, and rock bottom is solid ground.
Here’s a link to how others in recovery suggest how to start ~Recovery Prayers
Praying that just for today we both avoid rough landings, just for today.
Love in Christ,
Sober and Grateful