“I’ve had enough,” is a truth that can end politely a well meaning host’s urging we have something to drink. It’s also the realization I come to when I’ve about had it with myself and the unwise, dangerous, or reckless thinking that wafts through my brain, giving me permission to vent.
Venting is two steps to close to crazy for me – if I am blowing off emotional steam. Others have warned me that venting can be rehearsing anger – a character in my life’s play who always wanted to have a drink to calm down.
No, I am not suggesting that stuffing hurt and heartache is better. It’s the over and over rehearsal of offenses, that’s not a good use of time, or talents.
People like to talk more than they like to act. They like to sit there and complain and vent. Somehow, they think that changes things, when it doesn’t. James Patterson
- Asking a sponsor or valued friend to listen to problems is not venting if we are willing to listen to their take.
- Asking God for courage to change what we can is a prayer that He will answer.
I’ve had enough is as handy a way to close off venting as it is to decline drinks at a holiday party.
“I just have to ask whether acceptance—or change—is required.”
― Alcoholics Anonymous, Daily Reflections: A Book of Reflections by A.A. Members for A.A. Members
THOUGHT FOR TODAY: You don’t have to drink, use, or indulge — no matter what. (A New Day: 365 Meditations)