Better Boundaries
Setting boundaries is a [recommended] way of minimizing conflict with most people, some things and most places.
I love the idea of have a zone of peace that’s based on a healthy respect for what I perceive others need, and what think I need — for what I hope others can give, and what assume I can give.
It’s like the happily ever after place that Disney promised, but LIFE never delivers.
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While on that Venn diagram the boundaries are clear, in real life, not so much.
I am learning to
- quit trying to solve problems that are not on my side of the street, at the same time
- remaining open to going the extra mile.
So, I need wisdom and courage — both to say No, and to say Yes.
But not with alcohol.
Nope; I can’t have a healthy relationship with alcohol, not today anyway.
For that matter: With some folk, the kindest and most helpful gift I can give today is releasing them into the hands of the only wise God who is so kindly caring for me.
Finally some places . . . some places I have to take off today’s itinerary.
Today, I won’t revisit the past, except a glance in the rear-view mirror.
Right now, I will let go visits to the future, also.
So today, here’s my Venn Diagram of setting better boundaries:
- ME: With all my issues, real and imagined; I am powerless — no matter with WHAT or whom I am empathizing.
- My Higher Power— God is not powerless or limited.
- The Intersection — Filled up with more than a conjunction. It’s overflowing with Good gifts — some to keep; most to share; all to enjoy! — It is a safe place even in crazy times; especially in crazy times, like the Holidays.
The holidays can be rough – but the feelings they may spawn won’t kill us.
A drink will. (It’s Great to Have Choices, Right? )
Hang in there, dear reader — one day at a time — one hour at a time. Stay Sober for yourself! You are worth it!
Love in Christ,
Sober and Grateful
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